Grief is not pathology. There is nothing wrong with you, given the circumstance. Grief lays waste to us, it overwhelms us, so you come out changed. We are made more by our experience. Through it, you should be cosseted; the harshness will not escape you, but love can sustain you. The truth is that grief is all our unspent love. In time you emerge, from your chrysalis of grief, as the butterfly you have grown into. This is Grief and Growth.